I was reading several articles tonight regarding Obama's repeal on the Defense of Marriage Act and how recently there was a case where the unmarried same-sex partners in New York unsuccessfully sued to change an adopted boy's Louisiana birth certificate to state that the child had two fathers! This brought me to watch several videos of partners explaining why their relationships work and they re-instated what family is about, in which the majority of the responses I did not disagree. However, in watching the videos, I just feel like I need to write down quickly some of my thoughts on some of the things that are burdening on my heart. I want to also state that I used to struggle with homosexual thoughts in my heart for several years until God revealed to me what it means to be family and the purpose of the Godhead. My responses to statements or questions are not extensive, and all of it I share with deep conviction in a lot of my own walk and experience that the Lord has helped me work out in my own heart.
A homosexual guy stated this concerning him and his partner, “We desire for Love, commitment, and the desire to be a family.” Is there any sin with this statement in itself? No. Can you have love, commitment, and the desire to be a family in a same sex relationship? Yes… Is it wholesome? No.
It’s just like girls only having friendship with girls. You won’t learn how to build the love character within your life if you do not learn how to walk through in the diversity of language in the opposite sex. Majority of guys have a certain thinking pattern that makes it difficult for girls to understand and vice versa. The exposure to these diverse relationships helps us grow in maturity to the love that God wants to release in our lives when we walk through the conflicts in love.
It’s also like teachers only hanging out with teachers. There is much conflict that occurs in our communication when a teacher comes to engage in a conversation with the artists. Generally, the teachers can see the prescribed manuscript of how to do it and wants to stick to it and the artists may only want to release the creative ways. When they try to work together, they will get frustrated but if they know how to stick through for the friendship, they will grow in maturity and appreciate each other. They will learn humility and realize that their expressions of the things of God are both needed.
I’m merely talking about what it means to be a family in the context of what God calls it. Jesus Christ’s family is the Body of Christ that includes men and the Godhead, and the fullness of the revelation of God in us will not come to reality without diversity of our strengths/functionality/expressions. The Father has a personality and a function, and it looks different or it expresses differently than the Holy Spirit and the Son and yet they are One. This is just like the fullness of the revelation of what love looks like in a family will not come to reality without diversity in our biological matter as well in the context of a marriage between a man and a woman.
One of the things that we have done in our society is that we have come into acceptance of the less than the best. I say, “Let us reach for heaven.” I believe a big part of why there are these questions in the homosexual community is because we have not done an awesome job in showing what it means to be in God’s family with one another. The fruit of the division in the family and in the churches of God have caused society to not desire to be in a marriage with the opposite sex. Before we call their fruit evil, lets do something about the fruits of the “norm” of denominational splits, the orphans that we have not adopted in our family, and the unwillingness for us to work out our differences in things we do not understand (Matthew 7:5 "Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye."). When we deal with this in our own lives first, I believe God will give us such power in our words and walk to see the captives set free in the Church and outside.
I am aware that I am saying indirectly by my responses that the language of “same sex relationship” or “same sex partner” is not a sin in itself because I believe there is more wisdom in redeeming the language and its pure intentions than twisting it to fit the intentions of an unholy lifestyle. The LGBT community is identifying an unholy lifestyle to something that is has a holy language in itself to bring confusion to where the drawing line is, and I just refuse to play that game. The Church does not need to stay away from that pure language to expresses what the Church is like or our children will reap the fruits of confusion and perversion when we pervert the words… or when we agree that the pure words are evil. Jesus Christ is the Word, and I believe we have a responsibility to speak the purity of the Word to the world. “18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness, 19 because what may be known of God is manifest in them, for God has shown it to them” (Romans 1;NKJV).
Why do people marry? Because they love each other or they desire to be in complete union with each other to create a family that will multiply that love. (In a church family, it looks like disciples that multiply.) The reason why God had to create us in His nature because He wants to see us multiply that Love! There is a union that has gone deeper than the union between a man and a woman, and it is the spiritual union between us and God. It is not evil to desire to be in spiritual union with the same sex. God has it with us, and we should have it with each other. David had this spiritual union with Jonathan where lust was not involved.
Why is lust a sin?
#1 You agree that the act of intimacy in a marriage between a woman and a man is something that is not intimate or casual, which is exchanging the truth of God for the lie (Romans 1:25), by allowing your heart to take pleasure in the fruit that only should come from a covenant. The other person has not given you any permission to do that which is only meant for marriage. One of the fruits of a healthy marriage between man and a woman is sex which produces another awesome fruit, which is a child. When you covenant to marry the opposite sex, you also covenant to protect the family. It is sin when you meditate on the act of sex in your mind when you are not married to the person because you have a disconnection of covenant with them and also abandon the implication of the fruit of love, which is a child. The start of lust is in the heart where you call that which is evil something that is to be desired for good. It is aligning your heart to a lie by meditating how good the lie is. The more you have this lifestyle in your mind, the more you will give yourself to pervert the Truth and not be able to discern what is holy and what is evil. Another fruit of it is you say that there is no truth (humanism).
#2 You want worship the thing/person (sexual organs) rather than the Creator (Romans 1:25). To worship the sexual organs means you say that you will submit yourself to its desires rather than taming your desires (Romans 6:12 “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts;” Romans 13:14 “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”). To worship the Creator means you submit yourself to the desires of God. It is a sin to worship the sexual organs because your priority is to bring gratification to yourself no matter what it may look/feel like for the other person. The fullness of lust looks like rape, physical abuse, and/or murder.
Is it a sin to want to embrace any person? No.
Is it a sin to hug any person? No.
Is it a sin to be naked next to each other? No (ex: Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden, Isaiah called by God walk around naked for years, etc.). The only time any of that is a sin is when you lust toward the same or the opposite sex. Is there wisdom in how you should embrace another person? In our culture and in our time, I believe so. Is there wisdom in not being naked next to each other in our culture on earth? Yes. Why? The gateway that accesses into the integrity of our hearts is our eyes. Learning how to protect our eyes will lead us to produce a godly response of the heart which makes it easier for us to tame our desires. There is so much perversion in our world that the way to walk in Love is to cover one another and help each other in the purity of our friendships. You can be naked but if you seek to love and know the other person’s struggles, you will want to help them walk in purity before God.
I'm willing to go through any questions you guys may have, and I'm not here to argue if anyone wants to argue. If you want to seek for a deeper understanding in some of my thoughts, I will definitely engage with you. Also, I will most likely go through other questions as well in the next blog or the next few blogs on the following:
· What is the reason we should marry?
· Do people have the right to love one another even though they are of the same sex?
· What is love?
· What is the purpose of family?
· Can two people of the same sex raise a family? Does it affect the outcome of the health of a family?
God, I pray that you would release the revelation of your Son, your light, truth, and love in our lives and everyone reading this. I pray for those that may be struggling with homosexuality that they would understand the depth of what it means to be family and you would bring them to encounter the fullness of your heart.